“I find it amusing that when we look to nature we never find perfection. We find beauty. We find organization. We find purpose. So, why is it we’re always looking for more than those simple truths?”
We need to stop looking for perfection in our everyday life. Otherwise, we just end up wasting time chasing after an impossible dream. However, that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t seek excellence. We should push ourselves, and others, to perform better, stronger, more amazing feats, but recognize that it’s excellence we’re after and not perfection.
Excellence is about overcoming obstacles by creating systems for success. When we focus on perfection as a goal, we can only be disappointed. This is because perfection can only be achieved in the imaginative mind. Perfection is an idea but not tangible goal. We have to stop setting ourselves up for failure. We need to search for purpose instead.
Try using purposeful intent to drive your performance to new levels of excellence. One key idea to keep in mind is that all systems of success are based on a solid foundation of good habits. Maybe it’s time to take a look at our habits and ask some uncomfortable questions?
- In what ways am I taking shortcuts and not living to my fullest potential?
- What excuses have I made about my recent performance or poor decisions?
- What’s one positive habit I’ve put off adopting? Can I commit to accomplishing it for a day? A week? A month?
- What is the driving force behind your desire to change or grow today? How is this different from your desires to define yourself in the past?
It only takes perseverance and time to turn short term commitments into lifelong habits. Growth can’t happen without active engagement. We have to make the tough decisions to initiate change. We own our experience. We accept responsibility for what is within our control and acknowledge that there will plenty of obstacles outside of that control. Our acceptance, and resilience in the face of hardship, begins our journey toward excellence.
“Consider at what price you sell your integrity; but please, for God’s sake, don’t sell it cheap.”-Epictetus, Discourses I
When the new year came you made commitments to yourself. How sad would it be if you cannot keep the promises you made to yourself?
When you follow through on your commitments something amazing happens. You begin to build resilience, and that resilience translates into more productive and empowering days.
These days will quickly pass. Before you realize it, you will have either built a future from powerful, life-changing habits, or you will have lost your willpower and be left alone and disappointed for failing to take a stand to be someone better than you were yesterday.
So, be strong. Take a stand, and invest in your future today by always keeping the promises you make to yourself. It’s really a type of self-fulfilling mental hack available to anyone with the patience to use it. It’s the legendary self-fulfilling prophecy in action. Believe in hard work and you will see positive results from your efforts.
When you keep the promises you make to yourself, you also increase your faith in your ability to succeed in the presence of hardship. You will begin to have the courage to seek greater challenges, and you will find that fewer things in life intimidate you.
You will have built a reservoir of trust, and you will now know that when you make a decision in life you will have the follow through needed to accomplish your goals. Faith in that belief is an important source of personal strength.
Remember, you choose to build up or tear down that faith every day based on the decisions you make.
There are things which are within our power, and there are things which are beyond our power. – Epictetus, Enchiridion
When we think about Nature, we tend to immediately recognize that some things are simply outside of our control. The weather can change unexpectedly and an earthquake can strike without warning. We may be upset at the outcome of such events, but we would never be upset with ourselves for failing to prevent Nature from disrupting our lives. Nature is just being Nature.
How strange it is that we are not nearly as kind with chance in our daily lives. I think that’s unfortunate. There are many things in our lives that we cannot control, and it would do us well to remember to treat ourselves and others kindly when we experience these setbacks.
Traffic, power blackouts and internet outages are just a few examples of modern inconveniences which remain outside of our control, and still we often allow these interruptions to our convenience disrupt our peace of mind.
What good does it do to stress and complain about the things you cannot change? Just as you cannot change the flow of traffic, you also can’t change the mindset of others. So, why bother being upset about these things?
This doesn’t mean we shouldn’t make the best plans possible in our lives, but it does mean we shouldn’t be upset when things don’t go according to our plans. Nature is unpredictable, and our lives are clearly subject to change without notice.
So, try and remind yourself to be kind and patient. Make it a goal to endure wisely the situations you cannot change. Don’t become another angry voice. What can you do to be the voice of Reason instead?